I have just gotten over self harming a few months ago. I'm content with what's going on with myself and everything now. I'm better now. The problem is, I met this guy I like and we are about to start dating. But I'm scared about what might happen when he sees my scars. I don't want him to think I have too much baggage and I don't know if I'm scaring him away or not. I really like him I don't want to lose him, especially over this. What do I do?
I'm glad to hear that you've stopped hurting yourself. A lot of people struggle with stopping and I applaud you for being clean. I think you should tell him early in the relationship. I don't suggest starting out with "Hey! I used to cut myself!' Obviously not the right way to go about it...But the first few weeks of a relationship is the time where a couple learns the most personal facts about each other. Start telling him a few personal things before this big secret. Yes, he might run for the hills..but he also might stick around and help you with it. Everyone has baggage. But you should find out if he can handle yours before the relationship gets too serious. As your boyfriend, he deserves to know about something that serious. Tell him what you were feeling and why you did it. I'm sure that if he really cares about you, he'll care enough to be there for you.