Dear Jasmaryz,
I have these two friends that, well hate each other. I feel like I'm caught in the middle. They talk about each other all the time when I happen to be around. All of it is just getting to me. How do I tell them how I feel without hurting them? Should I just stop being friends with them?
I have these two friends that, well hate each other. I feel like I'm caught in the middle. They talk about each other all the time when I happen to be around. All of it is just getting to me. How do I tell them how I feel without hurting them? Should I just stop being friends with them?
~LaLa
Dear Lala,
Sorry to hear that your'e caught in the middle. It's kinda like having divorced parents and you wish they could just keep the peace for your sake. But that's not always the case. You have to talk to them together. Find a way to get them together and talk to them both at the same time. Tell them you don't want to hear arguing. You can't make people be nice to each other ..but for the moment, ask them to be civil. Tell them that if they can't hold in the insults around you, that they will lose you. If they really care for you, the least they can do is to zip their lips when your'e in the room. tell them how guilty you feel when they talk about each other around you. it's not fair to you. Just tell them that you love them both and you want to keep both of the friendships. Hope you cut it out!
Sorry to hear that your'e caught in the middle. It's kinda like having divorced parents and you wish they could just keep the peace for your sake. But that's not always the case. You have to talk to them together. Find a way to get them together and talk to them both at the same time. Tell them you don't want to hear arguing. You can't make people be nice to each other ..but for the moment, ask them to be civil. Tell them that if they can't hold in the insults around you, that they will lose you. If they really care for you, the least they can do is to zip their lips when your'e in the room. tell them how guilty you feel when they talk about each other around you. it's not fair to you. Just tell them that you love them both and you want to keep both of the friendships. Hope you cut it out!
~Jasmaryz