Sorry for the bad English, I'm German. I dated this guy for about 2 years and 7 months.. It was a long distance relationship and we were very very happy together. We wanted to marry each other, so we were engaged. But my parents really hate him because he has a different religion... they said things like "gosh, finally break up with him, it's not real love" or "I'll beat him up the next time I see him." It was really hard for me. and one day my parents said: "you have to choose between your family and him, if you choose him, you're dead to us." I was so disappointed of them...My boyfriend and me had to fight really hard for our relationship. But I knew it was worth it, because I love him more than anything in the whole world. we met and my parents didn't know it.. we always had to hide from my father.. in the last three months, we barely talked to each other because we had nothing to say.. he broke up with me on December 22...He said he can't do this anymore because of my parents and because we didn't talk that much.. I really can't get over him, I'm having these panic attacks, depression and I'm crying every day.. I know he's the right one for me, I just know it.. will I ever get over him? what should I do? :(
Sometimes you have to understand that our parents are from a different time. They think differently then we do. They have different values especially when religion comes into play. Although I don't condone them for the hurtful things they said to you, It is a belief system that they have known all of their lives. They probably learned it from their parents and the parents before that. They want to keep the strong blood long of the same religion. You can understand that, right? I'm sorry to hear that your boyfriend left you because of all of this. I would suggest talking to him and letting him how you feel. If he doesn't respond then I recommend moving on. because you two have been together for so long, I can guarantee that this will be one of the hardest things you'll ever have to do. Try writing all of your emotions out. Write a letter to him and tell him anything and everything you wish to say to him in person. Do the same for your parents. But DON'T SEND THEM! Once your'e done writing them, burn them or let them fly away on a balloon. you need to get your emotions out. As for the panic attacks and depression, I suggest you talk to your school nurse and see what you can do from there. But for now, whenever your'e upset, just look forward to the day that you can make your own decisions. You won't always be around your parents like you are now. So look forward to the day that you can make your own decisions as an adult.
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